a question for those who are married!!!!!

[Easy Rhino]

so how do you justify to your wife/husband that you are going to spend lots and lots of money on computers? does she/he recognize your habit/hobby?? :)

i needed a new PSU and MoBo and had to find a good way to tell her i was gonna drop 300 bucks on something that worked fine but just wasnt up to par. its just one of those things. even if you make a lot of money explaining to your wife that 300 bucks is going to spent on something they know nothing about can get a bit hairy.

[DOM]

tell her, if it can be from her to you for christmas thats what i did :laugh: but i got mine when it got here she wanted to wrap it and wait till christmas i was like :wtf: i know what it is im not going to wait ;) :toast:

[oily_17]

so how do you justify to your wife/husband that you are going to spend lots and lots of money on computers?

Buying her something expensive helps !!
But she is usually cool with it as it is less expensive than my other hobby of ICE-that she dont
understand.

[tong]

Usualy i make it sound as if i NEED it. Then i have her sit down with me and go thru options. I usualy have a good 5 items priced at least 20% higher starting, and pretend to settle for the one i want. Works 90% of the time.

[Easy Rhino]

Usualy i make it sound as if i NEED it. Then i have her sit down with me and go thru options. I usualy have a good 5 items priced at least 20% higher starting, and pretend to settle for the one i want. Works 90% of the time.


lol that is what i do! works too. :rockout:

im want to build an HTPC. i already have the mobo and the psu from my older rig. somehow i gotta get a cpu/ram/graphics/case

[t_ski]

It depends on how your wife feels about your hobby. My wife hates the time I spend working on it (and I always hear about it when something goes wrong), so I usually just buy the stuff and I do my best to just do the upgrade without issues. Most of the time she doesn't notice. I sell my stuff online in the forums and get paypal for it, which I can turn around and used to buy the new hardware. Something like a new PSU won't even be seen by her, so it's really not much of an issue.

But there are other guys I've seen whose wives totally understand their hubby's hobby and buy them watercooling kits and stuff... :(

[Sasqui]

Just buy it and beg for forgiveness later :) Gives you time to think of reasons too.

[Frogger]

Just buy it and beg for forgiveness later :) Gives you time to think of reasons too.

:toast: that's the ticket:D :D

[Urlyin]

Flowers and foot rubs ....

[DaMulta]

When I was married years ago I would just buy it and not say anything. OR I would make up a story that this part broke and my machine will not work right without it. That would work every time and sometimes it good to throw the bone in there its only that part that's compatible with my system I have no choice.

[bruins004]

When I was married years ago I would just buy it and not say anything. OR I would make up a story that this part broke and my machine will not work right without it. That would work every time and sometimes it good to throw the bone in there its only that part that's compatible with my system I have no choice.

Lol but isnt that lying.
Def. not the way to go esp. if she ever finds out.

[DaMulta]

How in the world would she find out? We got divorced over other reasons not over PC parts. Its not really lying because those parts are compatible with what you are trying to accomplish and somtimes you do fry things(On purpose)HEHE most women do not know a thing about building a PC.

[sneekypeet]

If all else fails ...... tell her there is alot worse things that could be done with $300!!!!!
At least you are still at home while spending money,and she can keep her eye on you...lol

$300 make for 1 mean party or a couple hookers , or both...lol

[Alec§taar]

LOL!

:)

* This is a GOOD thread... I am not married & don't really ever intend to be, but it's good strategies some of you guys come up w/, lol...

APK

P.S.=> Especially THIS one:

Buying her something expensive helps !!

LOL, because I had a pal once, who was into some "less than reputable dealings" (have to leave it @ that) & everytime his Mother whom he lived w/ would raise hell about it? He'd come home w/ a NEW T.V. Set, Microwave, Fridge, etc. & she would calm RIGHT down... amazing how that happens, eh? lol... apk

[Namslas90]

Wife left many years ago, However; get her addicted to a game like "Rose Online", "Runescape" or even WOW. If not get the kids involved and blame it all on them. Also it's very important to give her some of your time daily, recognize her family contiributions, and help out around the house(also use the kids). But, the most important thing is to spend an hour or so every few days intently listening to her opinions, problems, etc. JUST LISTEN, don't try to solve her problems unless asked. Women like to be heard, it helps them solve their own problems. Flowers and candy are great, but women like to talk. Other "personal" needs may also have to be addresses, but that's normaly not a problem for most men.

[Sasqui]

...Flowers and candy are great, but women like to talk...

Holy shit, not THAT :cry:

I've been married and it's usually give and take... you give and she takes (lol)! Really though, the bartering system does work sometimes, you buy something, she buys something. Other times (if you are a good salesman), you can truly convince her that the 8800GTX card you just bought will seriously make her web pages load faster, Heh heh.

[Alec§taar]

Flowers and candy are great, but women like to talk. Other "personal" needs may also have to be addresses, but that's normaly not a problem for most men.

Again, not married here, but lived w/ enough women over time to TOTALLY agree...

I see a lot of guys being GREAT PROVIDERS, but not giving their kids & women their TIME & ATTENTION... the most precious thing you can give either women or kids...

I can see it though, especially if you're a busy guy (purely relative term) tackling job, school ontop of it, & needing food + rest AND yes, a bit of "personal time" too.

Life happens & I'm no expert @ it by ANY means...

However, I have seen women leave guys because they never told them "how beautiful you are" every once in a bit @ least, or noting things they did to clean up around the house & thanking them for it saying they are LUCKY to have such a girl, etc. (more too, but no point getting into that)!

I made that mistake myself in fact!

(By figuring ALL I had to do, was bring in the food & money, but was SO 'burnt out' by it, I never had time for much of anything else...)

Oh well! You learn by 'em, mistakes!

APK

[Steevo]

She spends on shoes and clothes, when she already has a couple closets full, and about 30 pairs.




And my systems get pro-rated, I sell them to the place I work for every year, or a friend, and use the moneies and some to purchase new.

[zekrahminator]

I should be taking notes for when I'm older, married, and want some crazy uber processor :).

[ATIonion]

LIE!!!! LIE!!!! LIE!!!!


guys we never "Paid" that much anything, we always "got it on sale" right? like "half off honey"...or "My buddy gave me this"...and.."There was a great sale sweety, i couldnt pass it up"........Trust me when i say this ---she doesnt tell you the real price of the clothes and makeup she buys....you shouldn't tell her the real price of anything....:laugh:

now i say this and its like a little undiscussed rule you and your wife can have...she does it, you do it, and no one talks about it, its just understood that it happens from time to time....

[tong]

Contrary to what the other members say don't lie, fidgiting the odds in yoru favor however is ok. If you want to descretely hide it, u can as long as you don't buy a new case or change hardware when she's around.... your golden. I got screamed at more for a cheapo $40 case then a $200 board taht i dropped in without her knowing.... figure taht out.

[ATIonion]

Contrary to what the other members say don't lie



:laugh: take a joke man....i think everyone else got me on that..:laugh:



And to predict the future...

forgiveness is easier to ask than permission


well said man...well said...and dont forget there isnt such a thing as permission sex, but we all know of MakeUp sex....ya...its a nice...

[i_am_mustang_man]

forgiveness is easier to ask than permission

[lemonadesoda]

Dead easy. Quotes:

1./ The money i SAVED doing this upgrade myself means we can go out next weekend and have a nice time together [insert dinner, drinks, party, movie, or drive-through take away, depending on how cheap your are]

2./ It's NEEDED to make the antivirus work so that people cant READ AND COPY YOUR EMAILS

3./ Because it makes the PC go faster, I wont need to spend so much time working on it... and we can spend more time together

4./ It only cost 9.99, look here is the receipt (fake receipt or for other item)

5./ The company says that everybody in the office needs to get one. I don't know why, but rules are rules

6./ It saves power... and you know the environment is really important to me. It makes me feel bad to waste electricity. PS TURN OUT THE LIGHTS WHEN YOU LEAVE TO ROOM

[Easy Rhino]

Dead easy. Quotes:

1./ The money i SAVED doing this upgrade myself means we can go out next weekend and have a nice time together [insert dinner, drinks, party, movie, or drive-through take away, depending on how cheap your are]

2./ It's NEEDED to make the antivirus work so that people cant READ AND COPY YOUR EMAILS

3./ Because it makes the PC go faster, I wont need to spend so much time working on it... and we can spend more time together

4./ It only cost 9.99, look here is the receipt (fake receipt or for other item)

5./ The company says that everybody in the office needs to get one. I don't know why, but rules are rules

6./ It saves power... and you know the environment is really important to me. It makes me feel bad to waste electricity. PS TURN OUT THE LIGHTS WHEN YOU LEAVE TO ROOM

excellent pointers!!!! :roll:

[ATIonion]

only one thing you need to say


1. Cause i said so....be......atch.......lol

[Dippyskoodlez]

so how do you justify to your wife/husband that you are going to spend lots and lots of money on computers? does she/he recognize your habit/hobby?? :)


I'm not married.. but had a girlfriend that hated computers.

Damn that sucked. :banghead:

Although if you're justifying buying computer parts I'm assuming the IT world isn't your profession... :laugh:

I get married, I'm gonna be in the IT field.. so its a lot easier to justify IMO.
only one thing you need to say


1. Cause i said so....be......atch.......lol

Yeah, that'll work.... right after you can start the paper work too!

[ATIonion]

alright ive posted a couple of times in this thread, as jokes...of course i would hope that most of you know that i was only kidding with what i have said....however this is how i really feel..

marriage is mostly the willingness to compromise with your partner...so many marriages are ruined because one of the two wouldn't compromise....you have to be willing to give up what you want, for the sake of your relationship....at the same time so does your partner...
if she cant understand that this is something you really really want to have, then you have bigger problems...

I'd bet that to her its not about spending the money...its about spending time with her....and if you buy a really nice system, how much time would goto that new system and not to her......she sees the PC as something that takes you away from her...

fact of the matter is you can never justify buying something that you don't need...plane and simple...and you surely can't justify it to a women who would see it as competition for attention....

if you are wanting to buy a new pricey rig for yourself then remember this

1. buy parts one at a time and never all at once...

2. don't brag about how good the system is...she doesn't care and in her mind bragging about it means it was really really expensive...

3. Never spend more time with that PC then with her...8 hours of sleep 9 hours of work, 2 hours of PC, that leaves 5 hours of time with her...

4. Most important of all---TRUST....you tell her you are buying a new rig...she will ask "how much?" you tell her you're not sure yet maybe a bit of $$...be smart and tell her you guess you don't need the 8800gtx the 8800gts will do fine for less...or anything like that....never the less tell her to trust that you wont spend all the money...and tell her this is something you really would like to have...do not tell her you NEED it...cause in her mind, all you should need is her...

5. Compromise...remember you have to compromise...sure we all want the E6600 with dual 8800gtx's...but marriage is compromise...and if you can show her that you can compromise when it comes to your PC, then she sees that you know your marriage is more important...

the only reason she would be upset over how much you have spent is if you really don't have the money to spend (in which case you should NOT be spending it on PC's) or if you spend more time with the PC then with her.... and if either of those are the case, then you deserve to be in the doghouse over it....

Final thought: What makes her a women (part wise) is MUCH MUCH better then anything a PC has for you.......if you disagree then you have solved your problem by admitting that a PC has more to offer you then a women, thus you shouldn't be in a relationship...

[Dippyskoodlez]

I am so not reading that all. I think those of us that need to know what marriage is :P

[ATIonion]

I am so not reading that all. I think those of us that need to know what marriage is :P

if your not reading it, the why post a reply? no one cares if you do or not...:rockout:

[Dippyskoodlez]

if your not reading it, the why post a reply? no one cares if you do or not...:rockout:

Then why explain what marriage is supposed to be, when the topic's asking how to justify expensive toys? :laugh:

[Track]

This thread is stupid.. why do i have to justify my cause for buying something? She is my wife, the person whom i chose to be with, not my mother. Some.. most ppl are so small minded.

[ATIonion]

Then why explain what marriage is supposed to be, when the topic's asking how to justify expensive toys? :laugh:


:laugh: you must not have read it then.....but i don't care...its a General Nonsense post...just for bs'en around...:rockout:



This thread is stupid.. why do i have to justify my cause for buying something? She is my wife, most ppl are so small minded.


KILL THE INFIDELS!!!!!!:laugh:

[broken-arrow]

Usualy i make it sound as if i NEED it. Then i have her sit down with me and go thru options. I usualy have a good 5 items priced at least 20% higher starting, and pretend to settle for the one i want. Works 90% of the time.

:D yep works every time:roll:

[tong]

I think what ATIonion posted (the long one) is absolutely well stated. It is a compromize

[WarEagleAU]

What I do is make sure our bills for that week or whatever are paid. Make sure I give her gas money if she needs it. Take her out to dinner or whatever and then go ahead and get my pc stuff. She always tells me its your money any ways but just remember we have bills due, etc. She is usually only mad for a minute but when I Tell her my old stuff is going to my sister and nieces computer, then shes like aww...thats so sweet.

She never really bitches too much, because I make sure she knows its my money (ours) and that I have everything under control. Plus she loves to eat out, so Steakout or Ruby Tuesdays or Longhorns works wonders

[Dippyskoodlez]

What I do is make sure our bills for that week or whatever are paid. Make sure I give her gas money if she needs it. Take her out to dinner or whatever and then go ahead and get my pc stuff. She always tells me its your money any ways but just remember we have bills due, etc. She is usually only mad for a minute but when I Tell her my old stuff is going to my sister and nieces computer, then shes like aww...thats so sweet.

She never really bitches too much, because I make sure she knows its my money (ours) and that I have everything under control. Plus she loves to eat out, so Steakout or Ruby Tuesdays or Longhorns works wonders

Outback FTW! :respect:

[Namslas90]

Try cooking her a gormet candle light dinner for once; and do the dishes. Spend the entire dinner listening to her and addressing her concerns. Of course comprimise, buy her that $99
diamond broch. That stuff will get you far.

[WarEagleAU]

I do that stuff now, well with both our parents here and my brother, not candlelight but I clean and I also cook and stuff....She loves to eat out though and Outback is too expensive and dont give you enough :cry:

[xman2007]

Just buy it and beg for forgiveness later :) Gives you time to think of reasons too.

lmao true hehehehe :roll:

[Easy Rhino]

once again, good suggestions! most of these things are common sense but are good to remember when trying to justify that 500$ graphics card you just bought!

[Wile E]

Mine just lets me do as I please, because it's a hell of a lot cheaper than my other hobbies. (guitar, drums, modding cars) lol
Not only that, she nows I won't spend the rent money or anything like that. I always make sure it's within our budget.

[Easy Rhino]

Mine just lets me do as I please, because it's a hell of a lot cheaper than my other hobbies. (guitar, drums, modding cars) lol

if we had unlimited money she wouldnt care. but we are saving up for a house.

[Wile E]

Think you replied before I finished my edit. At any rate, she only leaves me be because I do exhibit a little self control. I just upgraded to my current rig in Aug or Sept, for a grand total of about 450(including selling off the old rig). My previous full system upgrade was 5yrs before that, with only the "$50 spent on here, $80 spent on it there" type of upgrades in between.

[heleng]

so how do you justify to your wife/husband that you are going to spend lots and lots of money on computers? does she/he recognize your habit/hobby?? :)

i needed a new PSU and MoBo and had to find a good way to tell her i was gonna drop 300 bucks on something that worked fine but just wasnt up to par. its just one of those things. even if you make a lot of money explaining to your wife that 300 bucks is going to spent on something they know nothing about can get a bit hairy.

From a womans perspective.

She spend money on clothes/make-up/haircuts yeah? When I get my haircut every 2 months it costs £40 (about $70 USD), I'm guessing your wife spends similar.

Well eveyone has their interests/passions/hobbies. If I went out with a guy that didn't have anything he was into then I'd be worried. My last long term relationship was into playing computer games... really into computer games.... so instead of whining about the time he spent I took an interest in it. Relationships are also all about give and take, and respecting each other and each others passions. She may not understand why you spend that much on a bit of gear for your computer but then will you ever understand why she spend so much money on cloths?

On a similar note, if your wives/girlfriends ever find pron (you know what i mean) in the house and freak out, just point out that its better you have that than another woman (this is coming from someone who spends months away from their partner and knows that certain things are healthy in a man)

Sorry for getting graphic, just saying what I think like.

Helen

[Bongbuster]

Go for the throat, women's weaknesses. Shopping.

If she mentions anything about the money being excessive, ask her how much she spent on the last shopping trip.

[Alec§taar]

What would be funny to see?

Is if these guys who're married actually let their wives read this thread & not b.s. about it, & I'd like to hear their wives' replies to this thing in its entirety...

LOL, then, we'd see what is what... ask a woman what she thinks of the various replies here, lol...

(I kid you not: Get an opinion from the horses' mouth...)

:)

* No guy here is that honest though, lol... in some replies, don't blame you, others probably not though.

APK

P.S.=> No way to prove it's their wives actually posting back responses either, but if someone was honest enough about this & felt they had nothing to fear? It'd be interesting to see their wives replies on each person who replied's post by name... to see who's the most accurate here (depends on the woman answering too, of course)... lol! apk

[Alec§taar]

What I do is make sure our bills for that week or whatever are paid. Make sure I give her gas money if she needs it. Take her out to dinner or whatever and then go ahead and get my pc stuff. She always tells me its your money any ways but just remember we have bills due, etc. She is usually only mad for a minute but when I Tell her my old stuff is going to my sister and nieces computer, then shes like aww...thats so sweet. She never really bitches too much, because I make sure she knows its my money (ours) and that I have everything under control. Plus she loves to eat out, so Steakout or Ruby Tuesdays or Longhorns works wonders

Best reply I have heard so far... keep their minds @ ease, w/ simple facts & a clean trackrecord, & the wife's actually a GOOD reminder system & brakes @ points most likely too.

:)

* Same thing I would do... because, it's really ALL you have to do imo as well, in addition to what I secondly said, first was actual example, but not mine personally & anecdotal, but it DID work, lol (second other reply I did here after first, because I failed to do some of that stuff, once, & I know better now)...!

APK

[Alec§taar]

From a womans perspective.

She spend money on clothes/make-up/haircuts yeah? When I get my haircut every 2 months it costs £40 (about $70 USD), I'm guessing your wife spends similar.

Well eveyone has their interests/passions/hobbies. If I went out with a guy that didn't have anything he was into then I'd be worried. My last long term relationship was into playing computer games... really into computer games.... so instead of whining about the time he spent I took an interest in it. Relationships are also all about give and take, and respecting each other and each others passions. She may not understand why you spend that much on a bit of gear for your computer but then will you ever understand why she spend so much money on cloths?

On a similar note, if your wives/girlfriends ever find pron (you know what i mean) in the house and freak out, just point out that its better you have that than another woman (this is coming from someone who spends months away from their partner and knows that certain things are healthy in a man)

Sorry for getting graphic, just saying what I think like.

Helen

Check that out... & NO need to apologize imo @ least, by far.

:)

* There ya are, ask & ye shall receive... ALMOST what I asked for... heh, I had to read every post though, to get that, & go figure - it was 2 posts above mine.

(Not somebody's wife afaik here, but the point's there)

APK

P.S.=> In honor of that one? I'm going to listen to "The Sundays" rendition of "Wild Horses"... apk

[Easy Rhino]

Think you replied before I finished my edit. At any rate, she only leaves me be because I do exhibit a little self control. I just upgraded to my current rig in Aug or Sept, for a grand total of about 450(including selling off the old rig). My previous full system upgrade was 5yrs before that, with only the "$50 spent on here, $80 spent on it there" type of upgrades in between.

yea i think that is reasonable, especially if you are able to sell off your old rig! i think ive given everyone a bad impression of my marriage relationship! my wife is real cool with my hobby and does allow me to spend money on computer parts when they are warrented. getting her to understand tho that upgrading a computer (400-500$) every 6 months is typical for an enthusiast is tough to do. not because she is a tightwad, but because she simply doesnt understand how computers work!

[Wile E]

yea i think that is reasonable, especially if you are able to sell off your old rig! i think ive given everyone a bad impression of my marriage relationship! my wife is real cool with my hobby and does allow me to spend money on computer parts when they are warrented. getting her to understand tho that upgrading a computer (400-500$) every 6 months is typical for an enthusiast is tough to do. not because she is a tightwad, but because she simply doesnt understand how computers work!I should also mention that I have a strange way of influencing people with my enthusiasm for things. lol She's somewhat into computers now, although not nearly on the same level as I am. She prefers Macs however, so she's buying a new 24" iMac for herself, after we sell one of our G5's and possibly my old G4 iMac. Can't wait to see how fast this thing is. lol

[Easy Rhino]

I should also mention that I have a strange way of influencing people with my enthusiasm for things. lol She's somewhat into computers now, although not nearly on the same level as I am. She prefers Macs however, so she's buying a new 24" iMac for herself, after we sell one of our G5's and possibly my old G4 iMac. Can't wait to see how fast this thing is. lol

oh man those new macs are amazing. an artist friend of mine is upgrading to that 24inch imac this christmas. they are very fast and very very sharp.

[Wile E]

oh man those new macs are amazing. an artist friend of mine is upgrading to that 24inch imac this christmas. they are very fast and very very sharp.

Yeah, we love our Macs, despite all the negativity from a lot of PC enthusiasts. We have a 1.6GHz G5, a Dual 1.8 G5, and a 17" 1GHz G4 iMac. Macs are definitely not good gamers, but they excel in my audio mixing/recording, and video encoding. Plus, when you consider everything that comes with them, they actually end up being a pretty good value, and their resale is immeasurably better than a PC. Was getting a feel for prices on eBay, and a completely stock G5 1.6 is still going for between $600-700. My iMac G4 is going for about 550-630, completely stock. Try that with a 5yr old PC. lol